I was 23 when I found out I was pregnant, 24 when I gave birth and now at 25 years young, I’m 9 months into this new role. Whilst becoming a mother might not be everyone’s dream, it definitely was mine. I couldn’t wait until I had a little baby that was half me and half the person I love. In today’s post I’ll be sharing with you how becoming a mother has changed me… for the better.
I’ll be honest, I was used to the attention and love I got from my husband. I mean, it was only us. I had his undivided attention at all times and it. felt. good. I can admit that I became selfish and didn’t want to share Diego with anybody. He gave me all his love and I gave him mine. We enjoyed each others company and would do nearly everything together. Imagine this, a +5 month pregnant woman lying next to her husband and crying her eyes out. I’m talking ugly crying haha. I began to worry about what I would be like with Isabella. I’ll blame the hormones on this but, I cried at the thought that we were no longer going to be 2. Maybe it was the fact that we were finally together forever. Maybe it was because I had his attention all the time. Was it too much love? I don’t know but it was just the two of us and Oreo. Everything changed the moment Isabella was handed to me. My selfishness was blurred out by the greatest gift I ever received. Becoming a mother has made me a less selfish person. I think about my families needs more than mine. There’s nothing I love more than waking up in the morning and cuddling together as a family of 3.
Don’t sweat the small stuff
I wasn’t able to enjoy the simple things and focused on all the negativity in life. Once I became pregnant I decided to change this and become a positive person. Plus, stress is never good for baby during pregnancy. I know that not every mother-to-be has the opportunity to really enjoy their pregnancy, especially if you’re working. You have unnecessary stress put on you and even getting to work can be stressful during rush hour. In my pregnancy I had the time to enjoy my growing bump and bring some positivity through a rough time I was going through.
You’ve probably heard people say that they see the world through their children’s eyes. No matter how old your child is, its so surprisingly true. With Isabella I have been able to take every moment in and be present. I don’t reach out to my phone as much, although Diego puts up a pretty good argument haha. I enjoy walking in the park and looking at my surroundings and taking everything in. Isabella doesn’t care what she’s playing with as long as its entertaining her. I no longer stress over the small stuff but have a bigger perspective on things.
True friends will reveal themselves
Can I be honest? I’ve never had much luck in this department and because of my experience I keep my circle very small. Being the first friend out of the group to have a baby is somewhat of a struggle, because I’m going through this experience alone. I mean, I could talk to Diego about how I felt but he wasn’t one of my girls, you know? I was lucky enough to have friends there to help me during the first few weeks I was struggling. Motherhood will reveal those true friends who are willing to love and support you in this new chapter. No matter the distance, the (lack) of time you may have or how tired you are, they’ll be there to help you out. Becoming a mother has revealed who my true friends are and how much they love Isabella. More importantly, it’s shown me that when times get tough I not only have my friends but I have my best friend as my husband.
You gain a confidence boost
Like many women, I’ve dealt with comparison especially in friendships and have focused on my flaws. Maybe it was because of the comments made or the insecurity planted within me that I couldn’t see the good in me. I became unsure of myself and would always see myself through their eyes. Even though my flaws were always pointed out, I know that I really wasn’t that bad. During my pregnancy I had the chance to really reflect on myself and who I was – I wanted to start seeing myself for the way Jesus saw me. For the way my family, my husband and friends saw me. After all, I was going to become a mother to a girl who would one day face these insecurities and I want to be that example to her. Ever since becoming a mum I no longer feel insecure. I have gone from being extremely quiet, to speaking to strangers on the bus, meeting new mums and making friends. You’re sort of forced to leave your comfort zone and talk to other mums because you’ll be with your baby every. single. second. But, I’m thankful for this new found love for myself and my purpose.
I used to consider, listening to music, writing essays, reading books and replying to messages on whatsapp as a multi-task but boy was I wrong! You can catch me every morning feeding Isabella her breakfast and feeding myself too whilst trying to read the bible. Then I’ll be hoovering the house while keeping an eye on her as she crawls around. This girl is active she doesn’t like to be still! I’ll take the time to clean up the kitchen whilst still keeping an eye on her. While she naps I have some time to get ready, work on my blog and take pictures if I can. In the afternoons we walk Oreo and we try to safely cross the roads as he loves to tug on his leash! Honestly, I’ve become a master at multi-tasking. I once had someone tell me that I don’t do anything at all apart from look after my baby. Becoming a mother means you have the responsibility of looking after a child, preparing food and keeping the space clean. I’ve become good at multi-tasking but also creating lists on my phone, in my planner and even in my head. Somehow, I make sure everything gets done!
I hope you’ve enjoyed this very real and open post on how becoming a mother has changed me. Motherhood is a journey that will continue teaching me new things about myself and will carry on moulding me. I feel like I’m a better, more fun – slightly over protective – confident mother and woman and its all thanks to my baby girl.
To all the mothers out there who feel like you can’t do it, you can. You were able to birth a baby into this world, you’re strong enough to overcome anything and anyone!